Safety Tips

Sadly, the times that we live in call for us to think much more carefully about meeting up with strangers than ever before. The following tips are really aimed at the girls, but guys, do read this too, and be understanding of your date's concern for safety. It may also help you realize why women may seem very cagey when you first meet them.

1. Keep your details vague.

Obviously, don't be so secretive that your date thinks you've got something to hide, but be sensible. Keep your personal details to yourself in terms of where you live, your home number and work details. Someone may appear to be perfectly trustworthy, but if it doesn't work out and you've given away too many details about yourself, things could become a bit tricky if they won't take no for an answer. People can be very persistent.

2. Always meet in a public place.

Make sure you plan your date where there are a lot of people around. Go to busy places, preferably where you are known and make sure you chat to the waiter or waitress while you are there.

3. Be self sufficient in every way.

This means that you should pay your own way and you get to and back from the date on your own. Even better, have a friend pick you up - this sets a time limit for the date, and gives you the reassurance that someone you know will be around. Never agree for your date to pick you up from your house.

4. Always tell someone where you will be and when you will be returning home.

Give one of your friends the details of where you are going on your date, plus the person's name, phone number and any other details that you think are relevant. It's a good idea to tell your friend that you will call them after an hour or so to let them know that things are OK.

5. Watch out for a sudden change of plans.

This is usually a prelude to danger. For instance, you agree to meet with a man for coffee at a certain restaurant ...he shows up with a friend and asks if you want to go for a drive. Errr... no thanks.

6. Stay sober.

Don't impair your judgement on this first date. Also, watch your drink closely. If you leave to go to the bathroom, order a new drink when you return.

7. Trust yourself.

Listen to your heart and trust your gut reaction as to whether something or someone is a good idea. If you hear alarm bells, don't ignore them. Remember, you are in control of who you choose to spend time with and it's perfectly reasonable for you to politely decline an invitation or tell someone (kindly) that they're not the kind of person you are looking for.

8. Go home alone.

Even if your date goes really well, don't accept any lifts, go back to a stranger's house or invite them back to your home, however tempting that might be. There are people who enjoy one-night stands and have their own views on safety, but whatever your views are on casual sex, be sensible and be safe.