Dealing With Rejection

Unfortunately, there will always be some dates where one person is much keener than the other, leading to someone being rejected. Rejection is never an easy thing to hand out or take, but like it or not, it's all part and parcel of dating.

Rejecting a Date

If no amount of hint dropping that you're not interested has any effect, you'll simply have to bite the bullet and spell it out. Don't string someone along if you don't like them and say 'Sure, let's meet up again - I'll call you' if you have absolutely no intention of doing so. Just be straight about it. It may seem more difficult at the time but you'll be glad you did so in the long run. Be kind and tactful, but don't build up their hopes if you're not planning on seeing them again. Simply explain that although you think that they're a great person, you can't see the relationship developing into anything further.

Of course, if you're using a dating agency, you can get them to do your dirty work for you. You simply ring them up, give them your feedback and ask to hear theirs. If it's negative either way you'll get to know, and you can move on from there ... Simple! Dating services may be seen as less romantic than chance encounters but they do cut out a great deal of time-wasting.

Being Rejected

Even if you felt the date went extremely well, if the feeling wasn't mutual then you just need to accept that fact. There's really no point thinking that you can change someone's mind about you - if they say that they'd like to just stay friends, then that's exactly what they mean. If there isn't the initial spark between two people, it's highly unlikely that things will ever change. Don't agree to become friends hoping that one day they might change their mind and fall in love with you.

Being rejected is hard, but you can look at it in two ways - you can brood about it and make yourself feel even more miserable, or you can just accept it and move on. Have a good cry or sound off to your best friend about what's happened, but try to look at the situation positively. No one said life or dating is easy. But if you have the approach that you're going to enjoy your life, then who knows what might happen?